February 11, 2016

With or Without

I have been giving a lot of attention to the topic of worth/wholeness lately. This idea is consistently brought up in my therapy sessions. We are all constantly flooded with different things we must do or be to be worthy or respected by others, to be complete. I think I have spent the better half of my life believing this to be true. I need to do "this, this, this" to be whole. I need to have "this and that" to be complete. What a suffocating box to be in. 

It is (hopefully) easy to look at possessions and know that we are worthy with or without them. I don't need a beautiful home or the newest technology to be valued as a person. But what about bigger things like getting married? Having children? Getting that important job? Do we truly believe our worth beyond those things? Do you know and believe you are worthy and complete even if you never find someone to spend your life with? Even if you find that person but they later choose to leave? Do you know you are whole even if you never have children? Even if you always keep a simple job? Even if you never do anything that the world would consider "spectacular"? 

I believe in becoming the best version of yourself. I don't believe in pushing and projecting the path you have chosen onto someone else. I just want to tell you, you reading this right now, that you are complete without any of those extra things. I wish I had had someone be straight forward with me about that a lot sooner. You are whole and deserving of love and respect just as you are, with or without a significant other, with or without children, with or without the important job, with or without a million friends, with or without the "perfect body", with or without the best education. Don't let yourself or anyone else make you believe otherwise. You belong.

7 comments:

  1. I really loved this. I've needed to hear that for a long time. Thank you.

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  2. Thank you for sharing this. It's so true. A lot of the time society wants to push the "way we all need to be" and it can become overwhelming.

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  3. This is so important. I've been slowly learning this, bit by bit, over the last few years.

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  4. You are incredible for sharing this. Thank you for being so wonderful and for saying the things I needed to hear from someone that wasn't my mother.

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  5. I've been a long time follower of yours and just really appreciate that you're someone who manages to stay real online. I'm grateful for the things you post and especially this one. Thanks for being a positive force on the internet. (Also your collages are goals - keep it up!)

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